🖊️ It's Okay To Be Hurt

To: (123) 456-7890 -- From: Asteri

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Song: [Found Heaven - Conan Gray]

Book: [Crooked Kingdom - Leigh Bardugo]

Keywords: [change, pain, parents]

It's ok to be hurt. Everything doesn't have to be ok with your parents just because they're your parents. Sometimes, your parents hurt you, and they have to deal with the fact that you're a person and they hurt you. And sometimes, they don't think they hurt you, or understand why you're hurt. But it's ok to be hurt anyway.

My mom really, really hurt me last night. She said a lot of things she's never going to be able to take back, that will affect me for a long long time. And those things were said in anger and hurt, but they were still said, and they stick. The things your parents say to you stick really easily because they're your parents, and you grow up learning from them.

I love my mom so much, and I've looked up to her my whole life. It's been very jarring to realize that she's a human with flaws and characteristics that I don't like, and that she's not the perfect idol I thought she was. I think that's a very hard thing that comes with growing up. 

So hearing the things she said to me really fucked me up. I don't know if I'll ever be ok with the things she said to me. And she believes that I'm being unfair because the words were said out of anger and hurt, and maybe I am being unfair, but at the end of the day it still hurts. And it's very hard for me to remember that it's ok, it's healthy honestly, to be hurt and for things to not magically be ok just because your parents are uncomfortable with their kid being hurt. 

So, in summary, it's ok to be hurt by your parents and let it take longer than a day to heal, because if your parents hurt you, they don't deserve everything to be ok just because they're uncomfortable with the consequences of their words. Words have consequences, and these are the consequences of my mom's words.

--Asteri ⭐️ (formerly Raven)